Against

  ... if you remember that your brother or sister has something against you ...

  - from Matthew  5

Of all the essential tenets of scripture,  that people ignore, this merits a position at the top of the list. 

You're supposed to go resolve things with others, not when you've got a beef with them. 

But rather, when they've got a beef with you! 

This is something else that I've noticed on social media. Everybody's all about listening, as long as it's someone else that does the listening. 

Everybody's against offending others,  as long as everybody else has to watch their tongues. 

This is getting it backwards! 

If the other person's upset with you, YOU change! YOU compromise! YOU go the extra yard!

Care about how you come across to others, and watch problems melt away,  like magic!